The idea
Reaction happens in seconds. Reflection takes a pause. The book's approach borrows from law enforcement: pause, assess, then act with intention.
Why it matters
Most regrets come from what we do in the first few seconds. A short, repeatable pause gives you back the choice.
Try it today
Build a three-breath pause. When you feel the reaction rise, take three slow breaths and ask one question: "Is this true, or is this the loop talking?"
Reflect
Think of a recent moment you reacted fast. What would a pause have changed?
For groups
- Where in your life do you already have a routine that keeps you steady?
- What makes pausing hard in the moment?
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